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he stopped giving me attentionhe stopped giving me attention

he stopped giving me attention he stopped giving me attention

FUNCITONING ALCOHOLIC. So if it really werent for zoey (our dog) I wouldnt have gone on that second date with him (because I just cant say no to seeing puppies). Ive had a talk with him a few times that I feel like his mom, Im always cleaning and cooking and have to tell him what needs to be done. I really i am lost and dont know what to do, love only gets old if he allows it, I have been trying to do sweet things for him aswell by making him a nice meal and texting him good morning and just checking up on him but I guess he seems rather bored. What he said was he passed out and decided to sleep at friends place because he was afraid of driving late. He has never introduced me to his father. ? line and starts listing all the nice things he did recently. As stated above, knowing what your boyfriend is going through (ex trauma, personal grief, work load) is important and all, but also knowing how you would act if you were in a similar situation gives you answers and peace. Maybes its best we leave it and not have to try so hard with the next person. But hes not very ambitious and is a homebody which Im sure comes from pot smoking, makes u lazy. Hey babe! I was still jus tholding it together because at least I have my boyfriend who will care for me for once instead of me constantly caring for others needs! "I stopped trying altogether," he said. But yeah, we talk more and sometimes I struggle to text back too since I work full time now! [1] The key to solving any problem is understanding the underlying cause. But hes not different. But I clearly have seen enough examples of the ones who simply stops caring when they are sure that we will be theirs and we will always care about them no matter what. In fact, because you are so young, they will most likely find you when you least expect it. But its not ones job to fix me. I was the one initiating our relationship and I feel like he thinks just being there is enough for me. This person uses sarcasm to take me down a peg, even after I said that Im not here for that. These are no games. I feel like Ive tried everything to get us back on track so weve just spoken on the phone & hes going to think about things tonight. I just dont feel like a priority any more. This leaves us hanging on in hopes they will be that guy again. Don't be antagonistic towards him, but make him realize how much you A couple weeks ago, we went to a show which was our first date in a long time. Also be prepared to lose him. Last week,for like 2/3 days hes been quiet and inactive. Interestingly I dont really like his love, yet Im the one trying to maintain a sex life and hes the one being cold and avoidant? My future husband and I live 13 hrs apart.. He was blowing me off each and every time. Its so annoying because Im a feminist but I just want to feel secure. you can still offer him emotional support (from a distance) if he needs itgood luck, xoxo. Sometimes when I try to kiss him he shoved me away. He doesnt seem to like me being around on the weekends when he has his daughter. I found a way thomy school computer so yeah. This man is no good for you, and he will never learn how to grow out of his depression if theres someone always doing everything for him. You have to be willing to become selfless. The first few months of the relationship that was a constant and we were dying to see eachother every other weekend. We both have made developments and decided to let go of our bad past. is there a light at the end of the tunnel? I asked him to go to a Valentines Day dance and we went. So hes stopped making an effort because it doesnt matter. Seriously WTF? Please give me some advice pleaaaase. And I dont know whether its that hes worried about his mother as she has totally stopped him from going outside and she stopped him from seeing me before the lockdown was announced. I have been dealing with a lot lately. Please advice and apologize for the long narration. I waited though and suffered through almost being forced to move across the country when after he graduated and wanted a new job but couldnt find one- that was the only opportunity he had and was about to force me to uproot MY life, quit school, to go. In the first year of the relationship it was really good and he made an effort to be with me, and I felt like he really loved me. My boyfriend is 22 years my senior and weve been dating over 8 months. I love him but Im not fully happy with all this lazy effort ?. Its been hard but there are better things to come. I guess subconsciously I acted that way because hes quite lazy and I didnt want to cut him any slack in fear that he would put in less effort to maintain the long distance. Its less taxing on my emotional self to stay lonely. Hes never been married no kids etc. Ive always looked for someone else to fill that void for me. Ive been with my boyfriend since July of 2020. And I get it, hes never been through the same things but I expect that. What happened now Millie? Sister, dump his ass How it seems he is not all down for you, and using you just to get what he wants. Rather call it quit now and learn to live without him as soon as possible because you are in a loveless relationship. Then you explain and get everything fyn between you then after like two weeks he will he will give attitude again from no where five minutes he texts with love the other minutes he will text as if he doesnt care . He had stopped taking pictures of me, he stopped liking my pictures in social media, the gifts stopped, and overall I felt as a hassle when I hung out with him. I want to make things work. Romantic. Several, if not most of my friends live together with their partner and it is something I wish to do too. I went back to check on him and he was online for like a minute..(Thinking he was asleep I left sweet messages for him to read when he wakes up. it breaks my heart that despite all my efforts still i been judged as a selfish gf. He sends me photos while he is out with them. We no longer sleep in the same bed, he has chosen to sleep on the couch. In fact, he rejects them flat out. Im still waiting on unemployed from when I lost my ft job in Sept. My tuition for spring is late. I dont know how much longer I can go with it. Oh, also he keeps poking my stomach and at first it was funny and cute but now its genuinely annoying and Im trying to tell him to stop but he doesnt take me seriously and just kind of turns it into a joke. Im afraid the only way we can turn this scenario upside down is by starting to love and care about ourselves more. It was pretty obvious I didnt know how to skate haha but everyone around me did and were doing tricks. Dont settle for this. Leaving a person you love is one of the hardest things to do. So yes hun step back cause I think we are doing too much. Some of the things that he was doing I perceived them differently than how he intended them. And youll likely receive the same treatment. To me it seems like your boyfriend is causing your anxiety and making you feel down which is not okay at all. forgive me for my wrong grammars im a filipina and im not that good in expressing myself in english. Which actually does NOT suck because I was married for 24 years and I dont miss having to make sure someone eats supper, has clean clothes, etc. Its hard to let go, especially when all I want is to feel his warmth. Afterwards hes been making the time but only when I remind him. if he is not putting in the effort to help you, that becomes tiring and it is not fair. I just feel stupid and I kinda want to give up on him. After you write down your expectations of your boyfriend, ask yourself if theyre realistic. He is so patronizing and cold and arrogant towards me like now he does not need me since he was opened up and exposed to all these new awesome, smart, relatable people. Recently I even paid half of his carnote because he didnt have the money until next week & I couldnt get my hair or nails done. I already had plans and I put a hold on being too available. This makes me Am I the problem here? He doesnt make an effort to recognize and validate your feelings. It doesnt have to be a big, heavy relationship talk! I tried to explain this to him. He asked if I wanted help learning and I said a big yes. Yesterday he said he had tried to write in his journal in the morning but it was took dark and did not want to wake me. He said that he knows he loves me but that he felt like I dont care for him. I love him very much and I know that he loves me but deep down i often wonder how much i mean to him or if i mean much at all. From what i have learned about him, I know he is someone who does not really know what dating is. Clearly I am not a priority and I deserve better so I think it is time to move on. THEY ARE DRINKING AN BECOME LAZY. After my birthday on the 2nd I was 16 and he was 18 (not a big age difference and its not illegal where Im at) and so i wanted to meet him in person. NEVER REALLY HELPS. Just think about how you can start fresh with a new guy (or two) and pick out someone who will do things with you, cuddle and kiss on the couch, spend time searching for the perfect gift, and keep his word about when hes coming over. Especially if you have a SON!! Would you like to come along? Thanks for letting me vent gals. I know its a tough pill to swallow, but in time you will heal. I moved across the world during the honey moon phase of our relationship. How much do you know about his life, family, friends and job? My bestfriend just wanted to get me with someone so she picked her friend and I told her that I needed to get to know him first and not rush into a relationship so me and this guy stayed up for 24 hours on ft and we kinda just clicked he told me he liked me and I sort of liked him but I told him I still wanted to just keep talking so we did and he was so impatient he just wanted to ask me out so a week later I was like sure and we started dating. This past week, I got strep throat and was miserable, so I didnt do anything, and since I got antibiotics, Ive been feeling better, but Im debating on doing anything to show him how much I do and how little he does. I know hes not a bad person maybe he doesnt feel the same about me anymore, or still loves me but is not in love with me anymore. Do you want to stay with your boyfriend, just the way he is right now? Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and I just dont know how to feel about things. Im dating this guy for 3 years now. but is a single text or a goodmorning too much to ask? He took care of me when they pulled my wisdom teeth and he offered his family as my family (my immediate family is in Mexico so I always had to spend the holidays alone). But for about two of those months, weve been in a long distance relationship due to him being relocated for work and weve only really seen each other about two or three times irl. This is the only problem in our relationship, the lack of effort. And when I would send him flirty or intimate texts in the beginning of this whole thing, he would either not respond at all or sound uncomfortable in his response. I tried to tell him how rude that was and he didnt understand where I was coming from and proceeded to tell me I was making a big deal about it. My boyfriend recently broke up with me. I would say he fell in love(infatuated?) I tried discussing that with him, he told me if he was to mess up he would want someone to correct him. He did say that we wont be able to talk as much cause theyve got people over and he did apologise before hand but I really cant stand him disappearing during our lil catch-up session to play games,without telling me. its been 10 days now and he havent ask me out, during these 10 days when he says i miss you or i say i miss, he would ask me to meet at his place for couple of hours (again at the spare of the moment). Even when I have my moments he still comes back around. I feel angry and resentful that going to school took him away from me while he was basically unavailable and busy. He is failing to realize that I am being affected too. When i say effort drops off, he takes hours to reply to me despite being very active on social media and those replies are one word conversation enders, isnt bothered about spending time with me, tells me he is busy with his family, but I will find out hes actually with his friends, I plan days out in advance but he makes me aware he wont be able to attend because of workbut then when the time comes round to it, he is free but is going out with his friends in advance. It's easy for people to say, "It's Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Im not looking for validation from him, but support. I feel weirdly trapped because I cant really break up with him given there isnt an actual relationship there, but Im in this loop where if I dont respond to HIM like an attentive girlfriend, he expresses this anxiety that gets my attachment system triggered. MUCH LOVE!!! Dont tell him, because he might try to manipulate you. However, he has never been one to put in huge amounts of effort. Were both not yet married with our partners since both of our relationship with our partners is not okay. It wasnt any thing bad. He also said that I know how he is and that he is tired from work. It hurts, but Ive got to learn to let go. You may have to loosen your attachment and allow your boyfriend to withdraw or even leave. That same night, we agreed to date. He came up with a lot of excuses such as traffic is bad, I have homework (hes a grad school), oh and the one that always gets on my nerve Im tired. He was very affectionate and gentle towards me and would make it a point to call me every day, the first maybe 2-3 months of our relationship. Maybe hes just tired from working too much? I hope this gives you some courage, you deserve to be happy! I dont get any attention unless Im the first one to initiate things. When he was drinking, he was attentive, affectionate, and fun. He had a past and opened up to me about it and we were just a rlly good couple. We decided to move in together shortly after COVID began so I worked things out with my work and moved to his state. Me and him didnt talk much because my mom found out more about my bf and i also couldnt sneak ipads anymore. Its so hard due to his work ,he still trying his best to see me at least thats what he told me. months later of constant chats and calls he then confessed that he still love me and he was sorry for what happened in the past. Maybe hes too heavy into the party, drugs, and alcohol scene. Yep. Should I just never expect to be treated the way he used to treat me? I trusted his words for way too long. Hes now working at a new job since Jan and its great! He will come around in my opinion. I thought that would be an isolated incident but it happened again this weekend. Not to mention, our second date was going to look at a puppy he was looking at after meeting my dog. Then we signed our new real lease together and I dont know how we got where we got but he started getting lazy. It isnt fair. He doesnt do laundry, dishes, cook or clean. I love my boyfriend, but just cant get the feeling that he feels the same. I was very prioritized in his life before but now he does not want to place me as high on his priority list anymore. Youre boyfriend seems like a catfish. In Feb it will be our 6 year anniversary. He says he loves me but he just doesnt act like it. Since Ive moved in with him Ive noticed a big change in things. But since last year, he stopped doing that. I mean, the love we have for them would still be there. Hi Jessica, Sweetie this man is never going to love you the way you want him too.He may love you the only way he knows how and its not a healthy kind of love by your comments. And boom..you would be able to leave him to be single and be open for someone whod treat you just the way you deserve. We may have jumped into it a little fast but we knew each other so well and things were going great. Also, since he fundamentally had no place to live when quarantine first began his ex wife paid for a month for his AirBnB and he said he couldnt tell her about me yet. He always gives excuses such as I just ate and no matter what I still put my pride aside and do it for him. We have a beautiful home and are dog and cat owners. First off I pulled back without warning. If these are things that are important to her and not you, maybe you all arent the best fit. You deserve to be told that you are beautiful, you deserve to be shown concern, you deserve respect. Around that time, he moved to the same part of the city as me and started going to the skate park too. When I text, he ignores them for hours even when he is online in the meantime. Things are getting better as we learn about his condition and learn the tools to manage conflicts between us. Hi, I have a very similar situation to yours. My boyfriend & I have been together for over 10 years. When i and my parents call him to come home(as our culture) he dont bother about him.. That was another thing to disappoint me more. Its confusing because he takes care of me by buying me food and we hangout all the time but theres 0 affection. he is the most amazing boyfriend i have ever had or so it was a little while ago. It was great for a few months, but now the lock down is over (here in Europe) I feel like hes starting to make less effort again, prioritizing sports and friends again. The sex? He used to put in a little more effort Im confused. Everything I say he interprets as me hating him. Were both divorced. The last time I told him about him not making me a priority, he said felt he wasnt good enough for me. For now, this venting helped me a bit. Not material things, but being romantic on special occasions. He works constantly and Im a stay at home dog mom (Recently weve been wanting kids). He told me about his insecurity that I seem to have a plan and moving forward with my life and career, while hes not and he fears the future ahead. He is mechanical and can fix many things. The difference in mine is that he does apologies very often but never changesand I cant keep up anymore, I am simply not happy and not sure what do to do with that, I even doubting myself If I am not the one who is the wrong person. I dont quite think he is a narcissist, because he does have a heart and I have seen him show compassion; however he is very proud and self-absorbed. He has never been one to open up about problems he has with himself or our relationship. His excuse was that he had no time because of work. I even dressed like a naughty teacher when we had sex. Then he will call and say he thinks he will just wait until Sunday morning to come down, Sunday morning he says maybe that afternoon. 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